The Glance

This is about the fleeting crossing of eyes between a male and a female. This little blog reply explains ‘The Glance’, or what ever you wish to call it, to other males:

You will know because the women is starring at you when you are not looking at her. Then, when you catch her eyes on you, she looks away. You can tell she immediately looks away because she got caught starring at you. She feels embarrassed and after that she doesn’t look natural and normal. Instead, she feels awkward/caught/embarrassed because she was checking you out. You definitely need to go over to her and talk to her immediately.

A follow-up story but from another place follows. It is a male who sees a girl that he perceives as ‘interesting’:

I caught myself daydreaming about things I wanted to do with her. Not all sexual stuff, but more mundane things like going on vacation, going to the grocery store, going on road trips, watching movies together, walking dogs in the park, cooking dinner with her, etc. I kept thinking about all these little things that we could do together and I knew that it was too late and I had fallen hard and I had to give this relationship my best shot or lose out on someone truly special. She is amazing and I cannot believe I met someone so good for me who loves me for who I am and who I want to be.

What you must recognize is that we use the eyes for more than seeing. We also use them to ‘connect’ with others. I mean connect as in making friends, creating boyfriends, creating girlfriends and more. If we wanted to look at someone’s face, we would look at the nose, the forehead, the cheeks, the lips, and so on. However, we tend not to do that. Our eyes lock into each other’s gaze for a flash of a moment or a second or more. An emotion will be created in you when you cross eyes with anyone which you will feel as a feeling. The feeling will differ depending on the type of person whose eyes you have engaged. It is possible that a ‘battle of status occurs’ in which it is essential that you do not back down. If I am wearing my dirty togs because I have been fixing a bus or whatever, I still have to win the ‘battle of the eyes’ at every meeting. I have to be prepared for the ‘battle of the eyes’ at every engagement. Some engagement of eyes have no ‘battle of the eyes’. If it is children, the may have ‘concern’ in their eyes which tends to disappear if you say hello to the mother. Some ‘crossing of eyes’ will cause instant turning away in the other person usually as shyness or a desire to remain anonymous, or the current habit of considering males as toxic, or any number of reasons. Sometimes you can rectify the situation with words. In particular, when traveling, my eye contact is a major weapon in travel. Last night, I caught the night train from Przemyśl in Poland to Kyiv. I had a very good night’s sleep in the upper bunk. However, I tend to be a bit ‘dopey’ for the first hour or so of the waking day. This appears to have gotten worse with age or it may be a side effect of the Covid AstraZeneca jab. I needed a drink before setting off into the Kyiv metro system. I said something to the lady standing at a tall table that I decided to drink at. She replied with welcoming smile. Part of this was a catching of eyes. The eye contact lingered and I know that my gaze was of a ‘respectful’ nature. She said she was thrilled to speak to a native English speaker. I spoke with simple English with my words separated. I had learned to do so when teaching English in Tehran in 1975. It turned out that she was a school student of fifteen years returning to her home in Kharkov. She said the bangs from the explosions were scary, but her school was underground and she loves her school. She was so happy that she could understand a native English speaker. She wanted my Instagram to keep contact. However, I got banned from Instagram for a comment about an early space flight with space walkers. Physics told me that they were suspended on wires as they had a rocking motion that could only occur if suspended. Irrespective, it was still a highlight for the morning. This all happened after a fraction of a second crossing of eyes in acknowledgement that I would be sharing the same table as her.

Here is advice from Zack:

Do it! Talk to her, flirt with her, etc. Just go, don’t think about it, go!

Don’t let good eye contact go to waste. If you are avoiding eye contact with people in front of you, even if it is a crowd, you are wasting opportunity. If you are turning away, when someone glances at you, you are wasting valuable opportunity.

If it is somebody with whom you might be interested in a relationship, if you don’t have the courage to convert this ‘eye contact’ into something more personal by perhaps initiating a conversation, the chances are that you have lost the opportunity forever. If a woman sends you a strong signal such as this eye contact, and you fail to act on it, you are informing her that you are not interested. You may be frightened to act with your eye glance but the message you sent was lack of interest. Irrespective, the lack of courage or failure to signal will be unattractive to her.

Sometimes, I’m a bit naughty. I use a woman’s trick. In Cologne, I stayed at an immaculate large hostel. On the first night as walking through the kitchen, I said, with a little nod, :I like you glasses. They were round with a gold silvery wire type frame. They suited her face. She complemented my red glasses. I nodded in thanks and kept walking. Next day, as I walked into the kitchen, she engaged my eyes with a welcoming smile and did not relent. I stopped, sat down and we talked for over an hour. She was a twenty-two year old girl from Turkey. She had a very good degree but had never had a boyfriend. I explained all the tricks girls use to get a man to fall in love with them. It appeared that her logical education had made her too logical and she was entirely missing the emotional side in situations. What she effectively did in the conversation was to practice her female skills on a stranger in a safe situation. I explained how she made me go wobbly in my chest as she looked in my eyes and spoke. She was clueless of the effect she could have on males. I have discovered that males go weak when in the presence of females that could be classed as ‘interesting’. I reason that this is something that we inherited from the reptile. I might be seventy-three, but girls can still make the centre of my chest go like jelly. Many don’t know this so I have decided I will tell them this effect they have on me. I can get away with this. They are so thankful for the feedback. Most are totally unaware that they have the ability to make strong men go weak inside. I do this to ’empower them. It is also to the benefit of men and they become the ‘joy’ of some man’s life.

Let us look at some statements on the topic. The subject of this book is really all about awareness of the emotional influences acting on us and how to respond and enjoy them.

It is really hard to explain unless you have experienced the feeling where you lock eyes and just KNOW nothing will ever be the same again. Something inside of you has been changed at your very core, for better or worse, and you will never be the same. All of this hits you instantaneously, you see it all, hear it all, and feel it all in a split second of time. It made my knees weak. [*]
During that initial eye lock, my blood ran cold. My whole body began to tremble. My heart was racing. I thought I was going to die. [*]
After all the initial shock was over and we got to know each other a little bit, he told me that he was having the same thoughts and feelings the first time we saw each other. How strange. I had never experienced anything like that before or since. To this day, he is still the one that got away. I believe that he was/is my ‘eternal flame’. If he were to knock on my door tomorrow and tell me that there is no longer any reason we cannot be together, I would welcome him in with open arms. [*]
It’s like a “Click” of such intense awareness that literally the world melts away. I have experienced it once in my life. The look on the guys face said he felt the same. We lost each other in the crowd and never got to find out what would become of it. [*]
Our minds are too busy even if we look into the eyes, we only have reaction time to see and not look. Also sometimes we feel that we are not up to the standards of the lady we have noticed. Too embarrassed to smile. [*]
We, locked eyes. 25+ seconds. It was unusual. She calmed me. It wasn’t sexual. It was spiritual. I’ll never forget her. [*]
Men are more visual, sensual . Females are more visual, emotional. Women want feeling, commitment and guys want the alpha trophy girl. [*]
All I know is, you can tell a lot by staring into a person’s eyes. If they are lying, looking for an answer or excuse, a way out or if they are trying to predict your next move, its in their eye movements. Its natural. Its always been this way. Its purely for survival. You grow up learning to read another person’s eyes just for these reasons. [*]
It’s not normal for two guys to stare at each other (unless they’re gay)! If it happens between two heterosexual guys, it will quickly result in a confrontation or fight.
Two girls (regardless of orientation) are probably going to break down into silly and ‘toxic giggle fits” Long before the time expires!
I have a patient that lives with his ex-wife. She hits and bumps into me right in front of him. She also challenges me to ‘staring contests’! (She does NOT challenge me in front of him, though)!
We’ll never know if their first kiss was preceded by a staring contest. [*]
One of my Pastors once told me that there was this young man who came to him for counselling but that it was impossible for this young guy to look him in the eye the entire time he spoke. The effect on my Pastor was that he just didn’t believe he was telling things correctly because all his actions indicated evasiveness, deception and dishonesty. [*]
I personally do not ‘lock’ eyes aka stare at other people, or stare at their eyes because I think that is an intimidating, dominating, judgmental, or even predator-like behavior. It makes me wonder, ‘What’s going on? Are we having a staring contest? I don’t like it.’ It makes me uncomfortable to be stared at so I don’t stare at other people.
When I meet someone for the first time or talk with someone I know, I look them in the eyes for a few moments and then look down or blink or look away briefly, then look them in the eyes again, back and forth so that I do not stare unblinkingly at their eyes. That feels more normal, natural and friendly to me.

(Editor: It may be normal, but if you change your facial expression, you can hold the direct gaze into their eyes. Just constantly change your expression. I do sometimes look down if the explanation is lengthy, but mostly I keep the face twitches going to add a dimension of excitement.)
I had That when stranded at a major train station. I saw him he saw me. Then I had to board my bus. But the bus didn’t go because this guy had stopped it, he made his way in and in public , loud, he yelled “that woman! I need her number!” I was totally embarrassed but also happy. And that turned out hot and steamy. So yes sometimes these things happen for a reason. [*]
That’s usually love. No one else exists it’s just you and her or him if you lean that way. It is a wonderful feeling. [*]
Have you ever looked into gorillas’ eyes? If not, google some images of them first, look at them, and then come back and continue reading!

I guess you would agree there is something creepy or even frightening about it. It’s because gorillas don’t have whites in their eyes, and therefore, you do not know where they are looking. You cannot read their intentions.

Evolution has granted humans remarkable precision in determining other people’s point of focus by looking into their eyes. It is because the eyes are the window into the soul. You will instantly know what the other person is up to when you look into their eyes.

If your biology tells you the one you are looking at is to be trusted and has good intentions, it will make sense to feel the way you described. [*]
I almost always win staring contests. There were a couple of close calls, what with the normal distractions, but I’m pretty hard to rattle when I’m on my game. [*]

There was an interesting comment by one blogger: “You always have the supervision of the rational mind for your raw emotions!” The blogger is referring to the mechanism by which our neocortex over-rides emotional issues occurring in our subconscious. Interestingly, we can over-ride many items. I suggest that some can be over-riden by ‘will power’ and some not:

hunger!
the need to pee!
fear!
shyness!
tiredness.
love?

Another suggests that eye contact can be used for reasons of: “hatred, intimidation, lust, or power-plays and attempts to control.” The blogger is correct. Some can convey hatred. Some will try to intimidate with their eyes, but don’t loose that game. Show some stamina and return with a gracious ‘stuff you’ with ‘I’m enjoying your play, but I’m impervious’ smile.

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A look of ‘lust’ is to be avoided. Make sure you convert your lustful feelings to a ‘respect and interest’ smile with a hint of playfulness. The smile should contain ‘I’m a fun person’. Some will try to exert seniority with their look. You have to undermine this with a smile that contains ‘respect as a human being’ rather than ‘respect as a superior person’. Your look must engender ‘equality’. To manipulate my mind, I sometimes imagine them without uniform or their physical form. The guard may try to be imposing, but a fit trim female in her low twenties has more power due to her virility, and a male in his late twenties has power due to his desirability to females. I never let anyone think they can control me through the use of eye contact. I demonstrate a respect for their position in society but equality in everyother form by the use of smiles. I may give a look of contempt if appropriate, however, this can get me into trouble. I am better giving a carefree neutral look that has an element of ‘let’s get this done and you can play your games with someone else.’

Here is my purposeful look of distain:

What I wish to demonstrate is that a whole world of communication that you can grasp using your face and all its muscles. I nodded graciously to the breakfast ladies as I left the dining room of this Soviet-style hotel in Kiev. Which reminds me that I need to switch off the Ukraine Air-Raid app in my phone as it goes off each few hours. This image is me puzzling what direction to take this chapter next.

Here is a nice paragraph by Christian Jarrett:

The reaction when two people lock eyes in a crowded room is a staple of romantic cinema. But the complex, unconscious reactions that take place are anything but make believe.

You’ve doubtless had the experience when, across a noisy, crowded room, you lock gazes with another person. It’s almost like a scene out of the movies – the rest of the world fades to grey while you and that other soul are momentarily connected in the mutual knowledge that they are looking at you and you at them.

Of course, eye contact is not always so exciting – it’s a natural part of most casual conversations, after all – but it is nearly always important. We make assumptions about people’s personalities based on how much they meet our eyes or look away when we are talking to them. And when we pass strangers in the street or some other public place, we can be left feeling rejected if they don’t make eye contact.

This much we already know from our everyday experiences. But psychologists and neuroscientists have been studying eye contact for decades and their intriguing findings reveal much more about its power, including what our eyes give away and how eye contact changes what we think about the other person looking back at us.

For instance, a recurring finding is that gazing eyes grab and hold our attention, making us less aware of what else is going on around us (that ‘fading to grey’ that I mentioned earlier). Also, meeting someone’s gaze almost immediately engages a raft of brain processes, as we make sense of the fact that we are dealing with the mind of another person who is currently looking at us. In consequence, we become more conscious of that other person’s agency, that they have a mind and perspective of their own – and, in turn, this makes us more self-conscious. [Christian Jarrett]

More comments:

Eye contact is a powerful tool in communication and can deepen bonds between people. Making eye contact with a person can increase intimacy, trust, and understanding, creating attraction and attraction. Eyes play an important role in expressing emotions and establishing deep emotional bonds. [marriage.com]

Here is a nice introduction by Mark Manson:

Eye contact is important, especially in dating and gauging people’s attraction to you. Everyone should have a basic understanding of what each person is eye-coding to them in any given situation, and it doesn’t take a cryptographer to figure it out. Or if it does, then fuck it, I’m that cryptographer. [Mark Manson]

Mark is hinting that you should know what people are hinting with their eyes and if you don’t just puzzle it out. There is a hint that you use ‘other than logic’.

Now I will get deeper into the process of male female attraction and coupling for the purposes of breeding. I travel a lot and often to countries where I do not speak their language. What I have found is that we can get on with others even if we don’t speak the same language. If the initial eye contact is favorable in two directions, a bond is created between the two. This initial eye meeting may have only been for a quarter of a second. The scientists call this 250 milliseconds, which makes it sound even shorter. Unfortunately, their logic tends to over-cloud their ability to see the emotional connection occurring. You may have the same problem where you are analyzing everything with logic which is impairing your ability to register the emotions that are occurring underneath. Let’s look at some comments from people that express their experience of eye contact as a form of ‘sexual’ communication indicating an interest in the other person as a partner for intimate togetherness.

Someone I’m attracted to was talking to me and I met his eyes – and fell deeply into them. I couldn’t break contact and neither did he and, as much as I denied it for a while, it was very intimate! [*]
Making eye-contact is a sign of intimacy, not only in romantic relationships, but even friendships and professional relationships. You only make deep, pro-longed eye-contact with people you like, whether it’s a crush, friend or a colleague.[*]
Direct eye contact, or mutual gaze, is an essential tool we use to communicate with others. While maintaining eye contact, we can convey a host of emotions and messages to the onlooker.[*]
I met a woman at a social function last year and while I keep eye contact with people I speak to, during the function at one point it suddenly struck me ‘’she has the most beautiful eyes.’’ Anyway the thought passed and we kept chatting.[*]

A few weeks later we saw each other again and since we got along great at the first meeting I went to chat to her. Sometime during the evening we looked each other straight in the eye and something changed. I can’t describe what changed but I could tell she felt the change too. Later on we both realized that was the moment we both realized there’s more going on between us than mere chatting.[*]
When we are interested in something or someone our pupils will dilate. In one study, a woman’s eyes were altered to make her pupils look dilated. The exact same photos of the woman with dilated eyes was rated as more attractive than those with normal-size pupils.[*]
Research on love and attraction has found that mutual gaze — staring into each other’s eyes — is a good predictor of two individuals being ‘in love’.[*]
Eye contact that persists just a second or two more than the normal eye contact between two opposite sexes, creates an emotional and intimate connection between them.[*]
Feeling that connection when looking in each others eyes is so sexy. [*]
He is penetrating your eyes, bringing the two of you closer, making it more intimate. [*]
It can establish a great mental connection to reinforce the sexual experience. [*]
Believe it or not, there is a lot of enjoyment in doing that. Letting your eyes meet a member of the opposite sex you find attractive — while gazing upon each other’s beauty. No talking![*]
I like eyes, especially bright or interesting ones. [*]
There is something about eyes I just love. [*]
I sensed something about this man very strongly. I got curious and, after a lot of strong eye contact with no smiling and no talking, I’ve actually fell for him. The thing is, I’m not a confident person with the opposite sex and really I never liked eye contact with anyone. I was just drawn to his eyes. I fall into them. I feel safe and at peace when I look at him and I fell for him. I loose sense of environment, space and time.

Get the courage up to ask. Be easier than all the over-thinking that will eventually exhaust you! [*]
[Editor: over-thinking is using the neocortex to inhibit subconscious action. Don’t over-think, just act.]
Guys stare at girls. It is what they do when they see someone they think are beautiful. Get use to it, It’s very common. … He finds you nice to look at? [*]
Some guys are assessing weather or not you may like him by trying to create eye contact with you. He won’t approach you unless he senses you may like him too. Some guys have no interest in approaching. [*]

Guys will take any chance they can to admire physical beauty and a pretty face. Some want to get somewhere with it and many stare because they can’t help it and it makes them happy to look at girls.
You should have your eyes shut thinking of just his cock going all the way into the hilt and whatever you want to think about that gets you to orgasm and scream.[*]
When you stare into someone’s eyes without looking away, after some time, you begin to notice micro-expressions in the other person’s face, which you interpret in many ways. …
At the end, whether or not you end up in a relationship, you would most probably become more fond of them.[*]
It’s what guys do when they find you gorgeous and don’t have the balls to tell you, believe me, I’ve caught myself doing it many times. As for your eye contact with them, is it eye flirting or is it disapproval? If it’s disappointing they still find you attractive and will keep looking but obviously won’t approach you. If it’s eye flirting why not just approach them? Society is finally reaching a point where girls are allowed to do that, and it’s almost guaranteed he’s checking you out. I think I would immediately fall in love if a girl I was checking out walked over and said, well anything really.[*]
It’s because they find you attractive or intriguing. It’s human nature to look at anything that’s pleasing to the eye.

I don’t mind at all if people stare at me. They must like what they see. Embrace it. It’s a compliment.[*]
People are always going to look for something to separate out folks. They stare and glare at tall people and make stupid remarks, short people, attractive people, over weight people. skinny/thin people, well dressed people, smart people, wise people, healthy people, people that wear glasses, math whizzes, good singers, bad singers, etc. etc. etc.[*]
I have this one classmate of mine that stares at me a lot with an expressionless face that I sometimes ward off as “creepy.[*]
They are trying to figure out if you like them too. If they feel like you want them to walk away, they will walk away. These are tough times. Young single men who have never dated are trying to figure out ways to seal the deal without breaking a boundary they didn’t know existed. Turns out most times, it is as simple as walking up to you and introducing himself. If only he knew that.[*]
I am guessing that you are an attractive young woman. Maybe you dress in a way that helps you to look your best? I am also guessing that you know exactly why men would feel fleetingly attracted to you and you are writing this question to re-enforce the good feeling that being admired gives you. I find it hard to believe that you could not have noticed, throughout your life, that there are many sculptures of the female form, created over centuries, many paintings by great artists of women and many “ men’s magazines”, to satisfy the male appetite of admiring attractive women. I cannot believe you would be so naive, as to dismiss the obvious. [*]

I put this in here so you can sample the experiences of others who have recognized that there is far more to ‘connection’ than logic and words. You might appreciate my comment on the first page given to me by a girl that told me that she had not smiled for three years: “Words are over-rated.” You have been trained to use words and logic to communicate. That bit is easy. You must now appreciate there is a whole new dimension to explore. I just accidentally crossed eyes with a girl on the next table in this underground shopping centre in Kyiv. We averted contact as it was unnecessary. She is with a group of friends. I was typing and my eyes wander aimlessly around a room as I type. On the escalator, a large security man was eying every customer. I purposely held my gaze that contained ‘respect’ and some items I can’t think of. After a prolonged linger, he relented and gave me a respectful nod. I was pleased to get the response as these people often practice out-doing others on the eye games. If you meet them in less guarded situations they rabbit-on with an enthusiasm not shown in their stern mode. I had a long chat in a colourful perfume shop. She was very powerful with her gaze. I gave her the upper-hand in the eye game to demonstrate humility and respect.

There is a young couple that appear to be on a follow up date. They consistently look into each others eyes and chat about things that are not politically significant. The group of four girls on the next table constantly break into giggles as a sign of mutual acceptance.

Here are more comments to hammer home the crucial nature of maximizing the use of your eye contact.

It means you find her attractive and she has read your body language and is responding in kind. You are exerting your masculinity using your eyes. Man’s eyes are very powerful. Women are attracted to it. When you can stare into a girl’s eyes like she is the only thing in the world it will draw her attention because she craves the attention.

It’s not easy maintaining eye contact. Most guys look and break it off. When you can stare into a girl’s eyes and lose all sense of time and feel the electricity that’s when you’ve arrived. This is not easy to do. It takes some serious balls as likely other people are in the area are watching, but a real man doesn’t care about what other people are thinking. He’s just interested in her.

Using the eyes is the best way to get women. It’s a far more efficient way to go about it. The eyes don’t lie. I’ve been able to glean so much information just from eye contact.

I went to the fair. There was a couple sitting across from me, middle aged. The woman looked totally bored. The man looked like he was barely there. I gazed at her and her eyes perked up immediately. She was bored with their relationship. She was looking for any kind of excitement and she knew I could provide a spark. [*]

When you develop your eye contact and gaze, there is a whole new world of experience waiting for you. You can have enjoyment in so many situations that may have been bland before. If you are in a queue, try and arrive a the queue well timed to sand next to someone interesting. Do not say anything negative about the queue. Say something trivial but interesting. I treat queues, not as a negative, but as an opportunity, an opportunity to chat with someone interesting. I guarantee that they will prefer your intervention to their inability to handle boredom.

It just may be that the few seconds of flirting with eye contact are all that either one of us gets. I am thankful on a deep level for those seconds. [*]
Omg. This has been happening to me. I’m not even that young but ever since my marriage ended I notice girls noticing me. Staring at me. Not every girl but if I go to town I see there is interest. And I stare at them. This stuff never happened to me. And I don’t look away and they don’t look away. It happened yesterday I just nodded at her. Gorgeous eyes. All sparkly. Lol. She just said “Oh, hi”.[*]
Simple — just ask her. Walk up to her as say: “Hi. My name is Joe and I couldn’t help but notice you from across the room and I thought it would be good to come and introduce myself. What’s your name?” And see where it goes from there.[*]

Take it from me, life is full of rejections, but also filled with acceptances as well. You never know where it’ll go unless you ask.[*]
(Editor: I don’t get many rejections. It is necessary to show ‘strength of character’. Unfortunately, girls have been trained to be rude rather than polite. She gets away with rudeness but another girl misses out on a good man because he now has a fear of rejection.)
Do it! Talk to her, flirt with her, etc. Just go, don’t think about it, go! Tell her you couldn’t let that great eye contact go to waste. Ask her to introduce you to the friends she was ignoring to gawk at you. Ask the friends how they know each other. Get her number and ask if your friends can join them. Wave for your friends to join them. Talk about the weather and rent and stuff. Get up to leave, then turn around and ask if she can shoot you one more look. Pretend to swoon. Leave.[*]
If alone, just walk over and say hi, and ask if you can sit here. Yeah its bold but she will respect it. …
Now if she’s with a group, this could get tricky. Her reaction to you will be heavily influenced by what the others think of you. … What you might try is to get there before she does. Sit at a table where she’ll have to pass you to get to her normal table. When she passes, catch her eye, smile, gesture with your hand (palm up) in the direction of the chair across from you, and ask “would you care to join me?” if she does, introduce your self and start chatting. …. Yeah its bold. I admit I would not have had the confidence to do this when I was in school. Looking back though, knowing what I know now, it would have been a great move. Your friends will be in awe of your courage. If it doesn’t go well, just say “well I enjoyed the chance to meet you. Take care.” And even if it you don’t hit it off, its an important step outside your comfort zone. She will respect that. What I would give to go back and get outside my comfort zone back then instead of later in life.[*]
Don’t read too much into it unless she does the aforementioned things of asking specifically personal questions about you while looking into your eyes.[*]
Just make a move, someone has to do it, so don’t wait and start a conversation with just anything. Try not to start with small talk and don’t hype up your expectation with anything. Be ready for rejection, so even if anything goes wrong, you won’t feel that bad about it.[*]

Once you are capable of making numerous eye contacts and acting on them, you can play tricks. If you strike up a confirmation with X, Y will notice and see that you are affable. Whilst talking with X (male or female), you are more likely to make ‘accidental’ eye contact with Y. You might make that eye contact fleeting and go back to conversation with X. Y may come across and join the conversation or your later passing with Y will more likely be fruitful. Both X and Y can be male or female. Women in particular weigh up a mans popularity as one of their gauges of the man’s worth. Some say that it is easier to ‘pick up’ another girl, if you already have one. It appears that women are not as honourable to their fellow gender. To a man’ a girl is ‘out of bounds’ if she has a boyfriend. Although married women have a habit of trysts.

The giggling girls left and one gave me a awkward eye acknowledgement. This can sometimes be done to elicit future support from the said male. The courting couple left after he helped her to put on her coat. Women need a lot of support during the time of pregnancy, birth and upbringing. It is natural for the girl to test a man’s willingness to support.

You may think that a girl is not interested. You may be suprised. Read this girls game:

This cute dude keeps looking at me. I return the stare and thought to myself, maybe he is interested.

So I started playing with my hair, I twirled it around my index finger. “C’mon sweetheart, make your move”.

He smiles and turned his head sideways while still giving me the eye. I am pretty confident, this is my moment to shine. I uncross and cross my legs, smoothen my skirt and was about to make my way to the ladies when he got up from his seats and started to head my way.

Here are more random advice items from random individuals:

And by the way, she’s wondering the exact same thing. She’s wondering what he’s thinking and if it means anything significant.[*]
When you are staring into each others eyes, like right into each others soul rather than just making eye contact.[*]
When you see each other’s pupils dilate.
When you casually glance over and you both catch each others eyes at the same time and its just a second longer than it is with other people is a good indication you have an attraction.[*]
We’d lock eyes a couple of times and I’d feel that strange feeling every time. It was almost as if we were communicating through eye contact and what was really strange was that I didn’t feel like I was the only one feeling that way.[*]
It was like that thing where you and someone know that you both like each other without actually telling each other.[*]
When I was getting off the bus he told me to take care and it was at that moment I knew I wasn’t the only one feeling that way.[*]

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