Create an Aura

One explanation runs: “Your aura is thought to be a luminous body that surrounds your physical one.” A better one is “The aura is an extension of a person’s personality and emotional, mental and physical landscape.” [1] I watched a girl yesterday as she mixed and mingled with people at an event. She walked around with poise with a smile that made her look like she was high on happiness. Conversations changed when she walked up to people as she instantly became the centre of attraction. She had a fit trim figure and a pretty face. But she was not a ‘stunner’. She had an aura about her.

If you read up on ‘Aura’, there is a lot of nonsense written. In this chapter, I wish to do is to give you character. I wish to give you a smile that looks like you are high on happiness. I wish to give you so much happiness that you can give some of your happiness to others. I wish to make people become fascinated in you.

It is tricky to describe an ‘aura’ because it is not something that you can measure or touch. You cannot simply switch it on or off. You cannot create an aura with logical thinking. Your aura is influenced by your mood and emotional state, along with many other factors. I will discuss Aura so that you can pick up its meaning. You may then manage to attain one. I have succeeded with this before. But I have failed before. It is difficult to use words and logic to create something that has nothing to do with logic.

It is beautiful to watch a shy girl with self-image issues, and who hides in the shadows turn into the centre of attention in a group. It is magic to watch her become the subject of people’s conversation. It is joy to appreciate her ability to wind men’s emotions round her little finger to the extent that she has males becoming besotted with her. I’ll start with a few comments on auras so you can be clear of the direction in which we are heading. You will notice that logic, words, and reasoning have little place on our road to an aura.

• One way to think of aura is as the ‘energy’ someone around you emits. Some people make you nervous – others relax you. This, in some ways, could be seen as a reaction to the ‘energy’ they radiate.
• A healthy aura is often vibrant and dynamic.
• We are so much more than our physical bodies, and by connecting with auras, we can learn so much about ourselves and others.
• Projecting your energy field is an excellent way to boost your confidence and feel a sense of empowerment.
• The auras of saints can be seen because their auras are very strong. For ordinary people, it is difficult to see their auras because they are not as strong.
• If you have strong energy, it’s possible for you to send some of your excess energy to those in need.

One quote states: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” We tend to the logical. We use words and logic to the detriment of feelings and emotions. We can continue to use words and logic, but we must add feelings and emotions to our arsenal.

When I looked at the girl above, I did not just look at her physical body, I looked at her deportment, in the British meaning of the word: ‘the way a person stands and walks, particularly as an element of etiquette.’ I looked at her smile when she was not actually engaged with others. I looked at the way she dealt with others. Her smile was present even when she was not mingling.

Auras are important in many traditions, including yoga and Hinduism. There are differences between each tradition, but they all agree on the idea of the aura as an extension of the energy field of the human body. But this is not quite the same as the aura that you will develop. Yours will be more practical.

Here are some simple tips to get you started:

• Clear doubt and uncertainty from your mind.
• Feel a sense of peace.
• Enjoy the moment.
• Create a calm environment.
• Think of pleasant things.
• Exude calmness.

You will need to learn to trust your intuition.

When I set off travelling, in the first few days, I have to learn to live in my own head space. I am very much on my own when travelling. I meet and talk with many others, but all meetings are over shortly. The brain is a strange thing. It can cause all sorts of problematic thoughts. ‘I must do this.’ ‘I must do that.’ ‘I must remember this.’ ‘Don’t forget this task.’ It does your head in, to use the vernacular. I must again learn to be at peace with myself and ‘live in the moment’. I don’t rush from A to B, I enjoy the journey. I look and observe things and people. I nod and give smiles or respectful nods. I am at peace with the world. As I walk the aisles at peace with everything in an observant manner with eye contact communication with others, I have an aura about me. People spontaneously communicate with me via eyes, nods, smiles, or with words. Even immigration officers stop further activity and chat about things, places, and activities.

The more you work on your aura, the more influential it will become. As you become in tune with your aura, you will be able to give some of your aura to enhance the aura of others. It is my daily delight to bring the aura out in others — to turn shy people into strong people — to turn those with social anxiety into characters of interest. A few months ago, a girl said to me: “Andy. Thank you so much for what you have done. I went out the other day. I was in a room with others and I felt justified in being there.” I was shocked that she might not feel ‘justified’ to exist! It still haunts me that people may feel like this. Yesterday, I asked her: “When you go out and you walk into a middle of a group of people now, you can handle it?” She answered with a gleaming smile: “Oh Yes. They love me.” She has a fascinating humour. She now walks round with an aura. She used to sit quietly in the corner and hope somebody might be gracious enough to talk to her. She now walks straight up to people or groups with her smiling aura. People that manage their aura tell me that they rely on instinct. They don’t plan words or introductions. They bounce up to people with a gleam in their eye and let the instinct of the moment decide what to say.

Let us look at another source on the subject.

Helping others and ‘Healer’s Aura’:

• Those with an interest in holistic health, wellness, and spirituality are more likely to have a healer’s aura.

Here are some paragraphs from holistic interpretation of aura as you might find in tantric type articles. Some items have relevance to our practical approach.

• Ever notice how some people have such a captivating presence? They’ll walk into a room, and everyone will notice. They won’t say a word and yet will never be forgotten. That’s the impact of an extended aura. These people are taking up space. Not with their physical bodies or with their voice or fragrance or anything tangible at all. Look out for them to better understand the impact of an extended aura. Notice how even when they’re tiptoeing around, everyone is watching them? [Deganit Nuur on Goop [3]]
• When your aura takes up the entire room, you’ll feel connected to everyone in the room, and they’ll feel connected to you. An expansive aura can feel just as intimate as it feels large and powerful. Let’s say you have an audition or an interview or you’re speaking in public. You’ll want your aura to expand way out. You’ll want to feel as if you own the room, and you’ll want others to be moved by your presence. – [Deganit Nuur on Goop [3]]
• It is through your aura that we are able to experience the emotions of anger, fear, happiness, love and more in their fullest intensity.

Self Validation

You may have become dependent on external validation. Your understanding of yourself may be dependent on other people’s feedback. You will need to cultivate self-awareness and inner peace. Your confidence needs to come from within, not from feedback.

My speedway trainer, Jerry Bridson, said: “Don’t follow the person in front, you will come second. Race your own race.” I use that as advice for life. You have a right to be here as do all humans and all items in the animal kingdom. Make decisions that are correct rather than using other’s opinions of what to do and how to act. “Do the right thing!” I say. ‘Right’ can be a quandary but that is what your parents taught you. It is the central part of true Christianity — the philosophy taught by mothers and reinforced by fathers.

Self-validation is the act of accepting our own internal experience, including our thoughts and feelings. Everyone needs validation. We have a need to feel accepted and understood. But we can help that along. 

It is normal to want validation from others, including parents, spouse, employer, work mates, and friends, But we should not need validation from external sources to an unhealthy level.

It feels good to be praised, to be appreciated, and to be told that we did something well. But we should know that internally without seeking the words from others. I believe that some of this comes from our upbringing. My upbringing gave me an obsession with success and an obsession with perfection. I now recognize that humans make about five percent errors which is one in twenty. You may get to one in fifty, but you will still make errors. Nowadays, I just aim to get to 95%. When I spray paint a panel, I aim to get it 95% perfect. A few mosquitos, or a scratch in the substrate, is not to be concerned about. The panel still looks good.

It is not wise to rely on others to make you feel good about yourself To do so, you put them in the position where they can dictate your worth. It is more appropriate to trust your own thoughts and judgments about yourself. It is not appropriate to think that others know more about you than you do. It is not appropriate to think that other’s opinions matter more than yours. It is not wise to advertise that your self-esteem is lacking and that you need people to validate you. You should never be dependent on external validation.

How to make your aura glow and attract people.

I like helping people to do this. I find it easier to do with girls than with boys. This may be because girls are starting from a rearward position or it may be because girls are more aware of their emotions and have a higher ’emotional intelligence’, whatever that means!

Without saying anything you can emit a sense of peace, calm, and positivity that can inspire and uplift those around you. On the other hand, you are capable of repelling people by exuding a negative atmosphere with overtones of tension, anxiety, suspicion, misery, and anger.

I can’t give a formula to create your aura. The reason is that you need to use intuition. Intuition is not controlled by ‘you’, your neocortex, nor your logic. What you believe is ‘you’ is derives from the activity in your neocortex. When you talk to ‘yourself’ in your head, it is your neocortex talking to your neocortex. Your subconcious reptile brain is not involved. Your reptile brain operates independently. Your reptile brain operates differently and does not use logic or reason. Your instinct operates from your subconscious which operates in your reptile brain. Your neocortex brain does not have a direct connection to your subconscious. I can often get an inkling of what is happening in my subconscious, but it is not guaranteed. There is no direct communication from your reptile brain to your neocortex. If I try to use logic to detect, no information is forthcoming. I usually describe the process as switching off my logic and seeing if I can get an inkling of what is happening. You will not create an aura with logic, words or actions. However, there are things that you can do to advance towards an aura — but I am not giving them as rules or instructions. I just wish to give you a thinking roadmap to work in the right direction.

• Lead an interesting life.
• Study different things so that you can hold your own in different conversations.
• Eat sensibly.
• Look after your body. Nobody respects somebody that does not look after themselves. A big issue these days is overeating.
• Avoid fake. Avoid fake anything. This includes fake hair, fake breasts, fake backsides.
• Never lie. Speak the truth — but not unnecessary truths.
• Be grateful.
• Show interest in others.
• The way to make a powerful brain is to network them, like a supercomputer composed of numerous other computers. Use other’s brains to enhance your thinking.
• Take a sport or activity that you enjoy and where you are respected. In the West, our sports teams are effectively our churches. The members work as a community, support each other, and demand standards from each other. They operate on Christian principles which I call the ‘Philosophy of Jesus’. Common Decency is demanded.
• Be the best you can at everything you do.
• Eat healthy food.
• Rid your self of negative thoughts.
• Maintain standards in everything you do.
• Connect with nature: Spending time in nature can help to clear and recharge your aura. We lived with nature until we built cities.
• Avoid spending time with people or environments that drain your energy.
• Find happiness even in the smallest of things.
• Don’t hold grudges against anyone.
• Improve the lives of others.
• Improve the day of others.
• You must be good from the heart. Do not use superficial goodness.
• Greet from the heart. Do not use superficial greetings. Avoid: “How are you going?” It is an inappropriate greeting. Be a little more inventive.
• If you are optimistic about your thoughts and actions, you will be a source of positive vibes for others.
• Avoid spending time with people that want to out-class you. Or stand up to them to show that you have an equal position. You can show that you will support them but that you will not be bullied or talked down to.
• In a nutshell, think good, be good, and then do good.

I’m in McDonalds in Morley and the clock has turned 2300. The young lad went round and told everybody that they were closing. They all left. After they had gone he came past and said that I could stay as long as I wanted.” He added: “You seem like a cool bloke!”

I have written a bit more of this and another McDonalds manager came and sat down for a chat. I said I was writing a new chapter for may book called “Create an Aura.” He explained what he thought an aura was and said that was me. He said he could feel it from the other side of the room. I was surprised. We chatted for half an hour about my life history and my trips and about his future trip to London to visit his dad. His parents separated. His mother is Balinese. People from broken families need extra care. They particularly lack a father figure. This applies to both boys and girls. I recognize that they will be using me as an example in life. Anyway. Back to work.

I sometimes say: “Life is a competition to have more fun than anybody else. However, I find that doing the self indulgent things I enjoy does not necessarily bring happiness. The way to be happy is to make others happy. That does not mean that you pamper them. Sometimes it is a kick in the backside. When yo make them happy, they make you happy.”

Here is some advice from others:

• Don’t violate your duty.
• If you feel like hiding out, bring your aura in. Want attention? Expand your aura all the way out. I do both every day depending on the situation. Knowing this and checking in with your aura may be helpful in understanding what you’re feeling and experiencing. You now have the tools to adjust according to preference and desire. [3]
• If you have the ability to find happiness even in the smallest of things, if you are always in high spirits and can get excited even for a little thing, then your aura is indeed contagious.
• A smile on your face can make your and others day “Wonderful”. Your Aura will eventually glow.
• If you appreciate more, are more grateful and less complaining, then you are a person with a strong aura.
• Be true to yourself…Love each and everything you do. The rest will happen automatically.
• Babies, children and animals stare at you and want to be close. People smile and want to be in your company, even complete strangers.
• Remember how it’s your first point of contact with the outside world? Well, you can set that first impression to whatever you wish. Need more friends? Set your aura to “I am loved.” Want more respect? Set your aura to “I command respect.” [3]
• “It’s safe to be me, regardless of my audience”
• If everyone enjoys your company because of your lively nature and effortless presence around your surroundings, then you are a person with a strong aura.
• If you make others laugh with your sense of humor or playfulness, if there is still a child within you, then you are a source of hope for others too.
• Everyone is drawn to happy and smiling soul.
• This comes from loving yourself unconditionally and not allowing anyone and any circumstance in our lives to lower our inner happiness.
• If you remain active and enjoy your life to the fullest rather than just sitting lazily and cursing your life for all the mishappenings around you, then your aura or vibes are very strong and positive.
• You are seeking a positive aura. This shows that you are currently living inside a negative surrounding. Now you want to move in a positive direction. This will result in fighting within yourself. One part wants to stay in a negative atmosphere, whilst another is wanting to introduce a positive environment.
• Be helpful to others.
• Keep your ego in check.
• This aura cannot be gained without hard work and discipline to be a better person, also by going through many soul awakenings and cleaning up all false beliefs to change the repeated unhealthy patterns inhibits our freedom and happiness. The aura comes from maintaining high frequency (inner happiness) by loving people. This doesn’t mean losing the individuality and or not placing our needs first. We cannot love others when we are hurting ?
• Know that no matter how far you’ve advanced, it’s a lifetime of learning and then some, so it never ends.
• We cleared out all her dark spots and past associations with rejection, expanded her aura to take up the entire conference room, and boldly declared, “I am loved. I am valued. I am intelligent,” in her aura. It took a few months, but eventually she started to develop a high from public speaking. [3]

I remember walking into ‘Silver City’, as it was known colloquially. It was the Education Department. I was seeking a mathematics and science position. The interviewer asked: “And what do you want?” in a condescending manner as if he had more right to the air in the room. I asked him if he had filled all the mathematics positions for the upcoming school year. The answer was of course negative. I asked what he could offer as I was also going to the science department. I later joyfully told him that I was taking a science position.

The story continues. I was looking for work as my house sale fell through as I wished to go travelling. I took a short-term appointment in Busselton which is three hours south of Perth, Western Australia. When I got there, they had not given me any upper school classes. I phoned the department and told them they had not stuck to their word and I would be resigning. They adjusted the school timetable! They sent an inspector to check on my teaching even though I had been a successful mathematics and science teacher for many years. The inspector was going through my teaching notes whilst seated in the science-teacher’s room. I asked him in a loud clear voice so that all the other teachers could hear, if he would be putting red marks through my notes like the last inspector had done! ‘Stuff you!’ I thought. Then I again asked in my clear voice: “Have you filled all the science positions in the state yet?” The answer was negative. I got smiles and thumbs up from the other science teachers as they clearly could not get rid of me as they were short of teachers! I was a popular teacher.

Here is some people’s advice on how to weaken your aura:

• Lack of exercise
• Poor diet
• Use of alcohol, drugs, or tobacco
• Lack of fresh air
• Stress
• Not getting enough rest

Here is a nice finishing passage by Rajesh: