Shyness

Dedicated to Elly from Cologne who claimed shyness when she had no reason to be so. (I have changed the name.)

Shyness is difficult to handle with logic as the issue is in the subconscious mind. We have to convince the subconscious mind to think differently. That in not just a matter of using ‘yes’ and ‘no’ logic. You cannot just say shyness is my problem. I won’t be shy anymore. But there are many ways to reverse this. If I can convince a shy person that others are missing out on their love, joy, and happiness, they can move forward.

I first have to convince the shy person that they are appreciated, respected, and even loved. I have to be careful with the terminology. If I talk with someone for a couple of hours, they still may not accept my comments about my appreciation, of their character, interest, moral stance, and beauty. I sometimes have to use sideways logic. I say: “Look. I have been sitting here for two hours. I could have sat and talked with almost anybody here, so why did I sit with you for two hours rather than go elsewhere.” I need to elicit the answer: “Because you like me.” If I can get that I am well on the way. I can explain that when they look into my eyes, I get a quiver inside. I give a hand-finger wiggle to across my chest to demonstrate the flutter. This is the flutter I get when talking to an ‘interesting’ female. I can assume that they have never been told the effect that they can have on the emotions of a male. I also explained that males go weak when a good looking female is in proximity. That is initially difficult to accept. The effect on a male can be magnified if the girl is shy. I believe it relates back to the reptile. The reptile has no neocortex. It operates entirely using the ‘reptile brain’ which we inherited as our subconscious. My reasoning is that I have the reptile brain which should mean that I can operate completely independent of my logical neocortex just like a reptile. I should be able to switch off my logic and let my instinct control my actions. I don’t need to restrict myself using logic. I have to convince the shy girl that she is loved, liked, and appreciated. She has to know that I enjoy her company and that, by extension, others would enjoy her company. I have to convince her that others are missing out on the opportunity to enjoy her joyful happiness. Elly was missing out on boyfriend material. She had no tactics what-so-ever. I was in the kitchen. I suggested the following:

• If you see him walking towards the sink, you accidentally get there first.
• If he is walking towards the kitchen, you stand in the way in the door or corridor so that he has to ask you to move to get past.
• You drop something so he can help you pick it up.

She was unaware of the games played by girls. She had trained as a lawyer and saw everything as logic.

I also explained that shy girls were more exciting to a male than confident girls. I somehow have to convince the girl that her shyness is exciting. Her shyness it thus a ‘weapon’ to attract a good male. As always, the male has to think that he managed to attract her. He has to think that he led her away from the ‘straight and narrow’. He is the ‘naughty’ boy with ‘naughty’ intentions. She maintains an air of innocence even if she enabled the meeting. If I get this right, she can realise that she has a useful weapon in her shyness. The male will see her as a better candidate for loyalty.

Unfortunately, I did not get to find out Elly’s progress. I have received emails from other shy young women met whilst travelling. They tell me that I changed their lives. Shyness need not be an issue and it can be used to your advantage. Just go straight up to a chosen male and say: “I’m a bit shy and I don’t know anybody here. Could you help me get a drink from this crowded bar.” Note: The request has nothing to do with liking the male. That will his task to win her favour. She can make him fight for her appreciation as a quality female tactic.

If you are a shy girl, just walk straight up to a male and say: “Hi.” He will be put on the spot to say something as is expected of a male. If he talks rubbish, it is likely that his emotions are running wild because there is a female in proximity. His emotions may be destroying his though ability because he has a girl to entertain. You may need to answer with simple: “Yes” a few times until he settles down. As I have forced similar situations on shy girls, I notice that other boys in the room are quietly observing the shy girl with a look that suggests that they would prefer her to be talking to them. The shy girl is then transformed from a shy girl in the corner to the centre attention. And all she has to say is: “Yes.” occasionally.

Girls, never forget that a good man will look after you better than you look after yourself. As a shy girl, you will soon learn your power. I guess that my grandmother was the ultimate shy girl before she met my outgoing grandfather. My grandfather elevated her to the exulted position of a large family in a large house that soon had grandchildren visiting regularly.